♥ Friday, December 12, 12/12/2008
Had a conversation with sam earlier, and she said something which made me stop and think. She said that in love, like it or not hurt is inevitable. Many times we find ourselves obsessing over who we're hurting if we do this; whether it's fair to yourself if you do that... if you think for yourself you're selfish, but if you think for others, you will be persuaded at some point to "Think for yourself".
Some people might hold the viewpoint that where so called "true love" is concerned, self does not come into the picture because you wouldn't want to hurt your significant other but they are ignoring the fact that conflicts (not in the sense of quarrels but in the sense from many small to bigger things.) yr expectations, punctuality etc.. are an integral part of everyday life, but those having affair, totally ought to be shot.
Also, i'm not talking just about a single romantic relationship between 2 persons. It is a fact that you cannot be romantically involved with everyone because everyone will get hurt, and it is also because you cannot be romantically involved with everyone that someone will eventually be let down/get hurt whether it was your intention or not.
If it's impossible to make sure nobody gets hurt at all even yourself, maybe the only way is to minimise that pain once one foresees even the minutest possibility. However, given the power of human will sometimes even these efforts might be rendered toothless. Even if this solution works, the amount of time you invest to prevent hurting people 'hurts' you indirectly because of the sheer effort it entails that you could have put into developing your own potential.
Conclusion? SOMEONE will get hurt whatever it is. which is as good as no conclusion.
/1:35 pm
